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A few minutes ago, I went out to get something more to drink. For some reason, today, I can't seem to get enough liquid. As usual, Matt policed what I was taking in, commenting that I never drank water, it was always just soda. This is patently untrue. I was actually throwing out my Mountain Dew bottle and going back to the kitchen for my cold bottle of water.

I don't know what led to this point but, for some reason, Matt felt it wise to comment that I should throw the Mother Unit out along with the Mountain Dew bottle, then warned me not to get a hernia. Even though I already knew what he was implying, I played dumb and asked him what he meant. He made some offhand remark about the Unit's weight.

I fucking went cold as ice from there. I told him that we could joke about pretty much anything and, even though we did seriously bicker at times, I was usually cool with our incessant ragging on one another, except for this particular subject.

Flustered, Matt said, "I'm just, I'm just sayin'..."

"You're just saying you're a fucking bully," I responded. "You realise that most people, when fat-shamed, often gain more weight, rather than losing. And, not only that, like everything else in the world, a person's weight is influenced by genetics."

"No," he said. "I'm the reason your mom gained weight." I'm assuming this was a way of saying he is a fabulous cook, and people can't resist eating more than they should because it's so tasty. Right.

I then said: "I'm still trying to figure out which one of your parents is the massive asshole, because that's genetic, too, and you're a major one."

I wasn't kidding. I don't kid about this particular subject. It's been one of my number one rants since my time here on The Cliffs of Insanity.

When I was a kid being tormented by others who grew up to be just like Matt, I would just withdraw, hoping that the "sticks and stones" myth would actually fucking work. It doesn't. It never has, and it never will. The only way to confront a situation like this is to do so aggressively and without hesitation.

I will not tolerate this kind of behaviour in regards to myself, but especially when it comes to my mother. This has long been my stance on my tribe and myself. You can diss on me, but expect me to diss right back. But, if you diss on my Tribe, those I love and am grateful for their presence in my life, expect a merciless response over a long period of time, because I fucking hold grudges and am always on the lookout for ways to repay your unkindness threefold.

I notice things about people, and I carry these observations until I might be able to make use of them in some way. My observations have brought me to several conclusions that would probably make for unpleasant conversations if the weight subject is brought up again. I hope it isn't, mainly for the Unit's sake. She doesn't deserve the discord Matt and I generate. But I can't not defend her.

Date: 2014-11-07 02:26 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] sapphirescarlet.livejournal.com
KICK his ASS. Motherfucker.

Date: 2014-11-07 07:43 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] tinhuviel.livejournal.com
haha! Yes, ma'am!

NIce

Date: 2014-11-07 07:33 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] janalyson.livejournal.com
I wish you were around me during my first and second marriages. I cannot think of comments like you gave, and I was dysfunctional enough to think I deserved it. Thanks for sticking up for those of us that are demeaned.

Re: NIce

Date: 2014-11-07 07:43 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] tinhuviel.livejournal.com
I can't imagine not championing us so-called societal outcasts. That's one reason I love the Internet so much. The virtual space has made it more than a little obvious that those of us who don't fit in with the "normal", "beautiful" people outnumber them by a huge margin. I'm glad you liked what I said. When something shitty is uttered in your direction or the direction of others in our situation, feel free to use whatever you wish to put them in their place. :)

Date: 2014-11-07 07:40 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] brujah.livejournal.com
I find it utterly reprehensible that anyone could say that about their spouse, let alone to that spouse's offspring. Of the ten thousand things I hate, a bully is at the VERY FUCKING TOP OF THE LIST.

Date: 2014-11-07 07:47 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] tinhuviel.livejournal.com
Well, they aren't married, so there's something. The Unit is much more laid back than I am. She tends to resign herself to things she feels cannot be changed, so why bother? If she won't defend herself when crap like this happens, I have no choice but to do so myself.

Date: 2014-11-07 05:25 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] adoptedwriter.livejournal.com
Let 'em have it! AW

Date: 2014-11-07 05:47 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] evcelt.livejournal.com
He sounds like a true asshat.

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